The idea of potentially seeing The Big Ex again has cost me a little sleep. I won't lie.
That's okay, though, because it gave me some extra time to do a bit of soul searching.
(Although, I don't think that losing beauty sleep helped my overall appearance. I'm SO Botox-ing the minute I turn 33, which is my "Botox is okay" age. Before then? Overkill.)
(Really, though, I'm optimistic that by then they will come up with something even better, like something that doesn't involve needles. Or poking me. Maybe a lotion? Or pill?)
Anywho.
So when I'm doing all my thinking, I'm also usually doing something else that doesn't involve a lot of concentration, like driving, or listening to Hubs tell me about Halloween pirate ship he's building in the backyard.
(Seriously? The man decorates the house for the holidays as though we have four children. It's funny. And a little frightening.)
Anyway, I was driving, and thinking, and listening to the radio, and probably talking on my headset, or knitting, or putting on my mascara, or writing the next great American novel, or a bunch of other things I shouldn't be doing while driving...and I heard it.
A song that should've existed 4.5 years ago.
Suddenly I am 22 again, my whole life is starting over, and I'm excited about what's to come. And I'm not afraid.
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AMEN.
Good on ya!
must say, that clip is awesome :D
Super new reader!
36 is my Botox is OK age, but lately I'm thinking about making it earlier!
I love So What. It's my new pissed off song!
i post something today which reminds me of you...anyways, i am still awaiting the big ex encounter...hope to hear from you.
hi there,
love your blog.
I agree with you, time will heal the heart. it will slowly take away all the tears...
and we who in hurt, so be brave and strong to wake up again.
so what? if he leave you, his loss.
love the song.as well as ur blog
take care
('',)
sheela
You're right this song is fabulous and there is definitely no right way to get over someone - words of wisdom from a clever girl!
I love this post.
You have hit the nail on the head regarding the range of emotions one goes through "post-break-up".
Although we may be done with our past, the past isn't always done with us.
So, we deal with it the best that we can.
Like you, I find music instrumental (hah! I just realized the pun) in bringing me "closer to fine."
It is alot like botox for the soul and a heck of alot cheaper.
I hope you shine when the time comes to face your ex.
Stand there, next to Hubs, and just send out that beacon.
"All is well!"
Peace - Rene
Pink is wonderful - fearless! Your description of the emotions of a breakup are fantastic. I embraced the anger side in my past... then one day I woke up and realised I had nothing to be angry about and was actually very happy... :)
I'm totally with you. As soon as I heard this song I was blasting it and singing along, loudly. Now I'm in a great relationship. I love my hubby and we have a very sweet little baby boy. But . . . if this song had been around, oh say, five to six years ago, it would have been my anthem. And when I hear it I think of all those past relationships. Not that I had a lot, well, I guess kinda, anywho moving on . . . :-)
Very well written. You have such a way with words!!!
i <3 this song too
I agree with you about break-up feelings, the range of emotions, etc. But after reading the last few posts, I was just wondering.....does the Hubs read your blog? I mean absolutely no offense with this question, just a thinking point for you (to go along with all your other thinking points). If he does read your blog, do you think he might tire of hearing about your back and forth thoughts of the ex? It's one thing to understand your spouse's past, to be accepting of where they've come from and how they got to you....but after a certain amount of time, I might think he would hope that the chance of seeing the ex wouldn't make you double-take and go through the emotional roller coaster over and over again....? Just some thoughts, nothing more. :) I hope that you finally got some rest.
Good luck today! And I like the pinks song! Nice touch.
Your hubs sounds wonderful! I love the idea of the pirate ship although I will NOT be sharing that with my hubby since he will probably start on that this afternoon and we have stuff to do. =) Good luck today!!!
I wrote yesterday and referenced your blog Gray Area. Made me think which I'm grateful to you for! So, thank you again!
~Sandy
I love that her ex is in the video with her :)
Botox at 33, really? Lol, I must be “beyond Botox” as I’m turning around the corner to 39.
How fun that your hubby decorates for Halloween. Greg just helped me put out my decorations last night. We don’t have children either.
LMAO – never heard that song, but I love it now!
I heard that song yesterday and I fell in love with it!! It's so awesome. It definitely went along with how I've been feeling lately too.
hear, hear!!!
cheers, babe! good luck
i'm a rockstar (in my own mind) and had never heard this song. it's my new fave. love it, needed it today - thanks!
Oh yes, that is a great song! My song that I wish was written before my "big" breakup with a crazy, lying ex is Rihanna's "Taka a Bow." Primarily because when I found out that every word he'd said to me for a year and a half had been a lie, I told him that I felt like I'd been in love with a fictional character, because the him that I thought I love didn't exist, and then he said "Well, I hope you enjoyed the performance" and hung up on me.
Ah, love!
I hope the meeting, if it happens, goes smoothly. Better listen to that Pink song a few times, first, just to make sure you're feeling powerful and fabulous. :)
I love pink, I love this song, and I hadn't saw the video until now..very cute! Have a FUN weekend!!
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I love break up songs!
Okay... I totally know!!!! This is the best song ever. I recently introduced this song to one of my good friends who is going through a divorce. And she loves it too. The perfect woman-power-getting-over-stupid-man song. I love it. Good luck with Big Ex. I know you'll be fabulous :)
Honestly, this song makes me feel so good about myself. I'm married, but been through a lot with him or other ex's. Everytime I hear it on SIRIUS, I turn the volume to max and sing out loud. What a great feeling. It's indeed an awesome song!!!!!!!! LOVE IT!
I'm sure you'll make it through your Ex sighting with flying colors.
I'm a new reader/follower of your blog...and I love it! You present your life in a very entertaining way. Thanks for sharing :-)
That was really good, it got me thinking. Good luck! And I completely love this song!!!! It's really good, I always sing along (Very out of tune I might add). And hopefully, you won't need botox;-)
hey, great post :)
Omg.
I love this song about as much as I love you.
:P
The first time I heard this song, I wished it could've been around at the end of 2006, when my first boyfriend broke up with me and left me bleeding on the floor... metaphorically speaking, of course.
Because this song describes him perfectly, in the third verse.
Tia, you are incredible. You have nothing to worry about with this possible sighting, because you will be better off than him. You want him to be happy, and I understand that. But like you said, you want to be happier than him. And I want you to be happier than him.
He's a tool, so so what?
:3
<333
I think most of Pink's angry songs make me feel like yelling, "Yeah! Men Suck! And I don't need them!" But maybe that's just me.
And I'm so with you on the range of emotions you feel after a break-up. I'm still going through my first one (even though it's been seven months! Seven! argh...) and it's been so rough. How do people go through this over and over? How do you not get jaded after the first one?
I've gone through the this-sadness-is-eternal phase, the hopeful phase, angry, loving, miss him phases, and they just cycle over and over. I'm starting to cross into the I-guess-it-wasn't-meant-to-be stage, but I'm facing it reluctantly. It's hard to still be friends with him knowing that that's all we'll be. And then making a clean break has been impossible too.
In conclusion, break-ups suck and I wish that by this age I had already gotten the hang of it.
I'd have to say that the moment in which your describing, the one in the car (or where ever it may be) when it all hits you, is such an important moment in one's life. That is a milestone in itself. You've come to a point where you've fully overcome something that you've went through and from that "ah-ha" moment you can move on with so much more clarity, happiness, and a sense of relief as a new chapter begins in your life. oy
Have a great time tonight! You probably won't feel awkward at all, but feel light as a feather floating around with your hubs. Like I said before, he's the one you're meant to be with.
And yes, Pink's music is awesome! Like she says, "So what?!"
Just wanted to say I'm one of the many who recently came acorss your blog. I fell head over heels in love with your writing immediately and look forward to each and every single new post you do. I love your wit, charm, and honesty!
You and Hubs sound like so much fun! Can't wait to read your next post.
Pink comes up with some crazy songs that i love because she doesnt B.S. and talk about love and flowers and other gooey stuff, she says it how it is.
That is an AWESOME song! AMEN, sister! I love that you not only punched snarky-comment-dude in the face but you stole his beer! You go, girl! I came across your blog via Blogger and I have been following for about 2 weeks; LOVE IT! Your outlook is so honest and refreshing!
Spot on. Just the way I was feeling. The song rocks too!
Nice song, great words!
Just say no to, 'Botox'. My friends who have been using it for years are starting to look a bit odd.
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I think you may just be the next Carrie Bradshaw.
I hope that you're still excited about what's to come. And you write fearlessly ;)
Wow that's exactly how I feel right now...thanks for this post. That's just what I needed to get through the day, to realize that everything's gonna be okay =]
So What is an awesome song.
Love this. Very well said and so true! Thanks for putting into words what so many experience.
Have to say that I have all that and more to be angry about my "Big Ex." Pending court cases of kidnapping and so on. I will tell you that for that man's sake I hope he doesn't cross my path.
But overall I stopped worrying about what his crazy a@& was doing and just moved on. Enjoyed reading your blog today though!
Another great getting-over-you song is "Irreplaceable" by Beyonce ~ "I can have another you in a minute!" Love it!
I've just recently started reading your blog.
And I mus say,
I love your blogs.
You're funny and sarcastic.
And I love it.
And I seriously love the song
"So What"
Pink is always so awesome.
I love this song too. When my husband first heard it- he hated it! I played it a lot and then it got into his head. He now has it on his ipod and is listed on his favorites playlist. I love your blog! You really have quite a following! You write well!
BTW: Thanks for visiting my blog the other day. I appreciate your comment.
Maureen :)
http://healourlives.blogspot.com
Spot on, girl. I hate break-ups. I'm too sensitive of a woman to broken up with. I cry too much.
Cool about the pirate ship, but why isn't he building it in the front yard? No one's going to see it in back. Your husband is my kind of guy!
hehe...that's kinda how i was when i broke up with my ex. I just started doing all the things i'd never done when he was around!!! Kinda like, 'Stuff you!' lol
Botox at 33? WOW!
love the song!! know how you feel about all the roller coaster emotions. been there done that. it does get better. love your blog!!
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"There is no "right way" to get over someone. "
Boy, you sure are bang on target!
I met my ex online a few weeks ago and all those feelings you described came back with a rush (even though it's been almost 2 years since the break-up). I know time heals, but I guess some people take longer than others.
33? Really? I'm 33 and while first of all I would NEVER Botox (ew!) IF I would ever consider it, 33 still so young! I mean if the 50s are the new 30s, the 30s are like...I don't know, the late teen years...at least that's how I often still feel. Except for when I'm chugging coffee and ibuprofen to find the energy to keep up with my kids and while appeasing my tired old joints. (Just kiddin'...mostly. HA!)
Hello!
I don't know how you will look on this but I came by your blog today for the very first time. I've never been able to understand the passion that some have for blogging but I love reading stuff that awakens the mind and inflames the imagination. I think yours is an admirable blog and reading through your archives was interesting. I couldn't resist the temptation to do just that. The more scope it gave to my mind although I was hoping to read and leave quietly without surprising you with any comment. Perhaps you will be inviting back sometime if you think a counter visit is worth one infringement of your normal routine. I'll look out for your arrival. Until then, take care.
btw: have you seen or read the master and margarita?
I just posted a blog on breakups too! Funny to see we feel the same way! PS I love love love Pink!...and your blog!
I have to agree that songs brings out the best of everyone when your in a not-so-well-state. Thanks for putting the video in. I haven't seen it!
oh crap. i just turned 33.
i hope i never have to go through that... chances are, since life isn't fair, i will... but i'm glad to know i wont be going through it alone. :)
great post.
I Just have to say. i absolutly love love love your blog!! Holy shit. I just got divorced, like 4 months ago. and it was totaly sudden. one day he was leaveing me, two months later we were divorced. any way... love love love your blog!!!
Pink.
Made me think.
Of a guy in College,
yeah, I know there's
always a guy in college.
But, hey anyway his name was
(Sigh)
Meko
An African American man with a Asian name he made up.
How cool was that?
Yeah I know some guy in college,
they always have cool names.
If it wasn't Meko it would have been...
Oh, I don't know, Teko, genko, Frekdo! Whatever!
Anyway this guy, I want him bad!!!!
Do just about anything he asked,
[underline]everythang!
One day he asked to cut my hair, (Fashion School,I think his major was Design, but he had hairdressser creed.)
Anyway, we did the deed, it was goood, it was very, very, gooooood!
Then we woke up and he said he didn't want to have a 'serious' realationship. Feking, hell!!!!
20 years later....
Pink.
It made me think.
Soooo, what!
Cool gurlfriend, I hope you like my brief affair written in poetry.
Now give your new pal here the 411 on how you inserted that cool video into your blog post. I can't do that! Teach me Sensei.[Bows in the Chiense fashion.]
Peace,
Clueuin
I am a big proponent of getting over one person by getting under (or on top of!) someone else...
But, then, you knew that.
And you never even punched me in the face for saying it. ;)
My Pink song for my ex came 8 years too late! Mine is Who Knew?. So hits home for me...
I so love that song.
I recently learned that getting cracked in the head with the business end of a dog leash is a botox-free way to eliminate forehead wrinkles (at least temporarily)...but only if you want to look a little like an Indian woman with a bindi (red spot). Both cheap and exotic! :)
Awesome blog!
And you gave me a new favourite song! Kudos!
First of all, I had to ask the class I'm in to be quiet and listen whiel I blasted that song. I know exactly what you mean about breakups. I've been in a bit of a rut lately relationship wise. I've felt sick to my stomach, and like I want to kick a windsheild out all at the same time.
Pull through.
xxx
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